Let’s Talk About Apologizing (And Why We Need to Stop Saying Sorry for Who We Are)
Okay, real talk—apologizing can be tricky for me. I’m all about taking responsibility for my actions, reflecting on my behavior, and handling conflicts like an adult. But actually saying the words “I’m sorry”? Whew. That one doesn’t always come easy. Sometimes, it even feels like I’m apologizing for being me—and that just doesn’t sit right.
Taking responsibility is important. Owning our mistakes, repairing trust, and being accountable for how we affect others? That’s what builds healthy relationships and a fulfilling life. But somewhere along the way, a lot of us started apologizing for things we shouldn’t be sorry for—like our personalities, our feelings, or just taking up space in the world.
Are You Apologizing for What You Did... or for Who You Are?
Not all apologies are the same. There’s a huge difference between:
💡 A real, healthy apology:
“Hey, I messed up, and I take responsibility for it.”
“I see how my actions hurt you, and I want to make things right.”
🚨 A shame-based apology:
“I’m sorry for being difficult.”
“I’m sorry for always messing things up.”
“I’m sorry, I know I’m annoying.”
See the difference? One is about accountability. The other is about self-doubt and shame.
When we apologize for just existing, it’s usually coming from a place of feeling not good enough—like we have to earn love, respect, or acceptance by shrinking ourselves down. But no matter how many times we say sorry, that feeling never really goes away.
Stop Saying Sorry for Being Yourself
Here’s the thing—there’s nothing wrong with you. Yes, we all have flaws. We all have moments where we could’ve handled things better. But tearing ourselves down, constantly apologizing for who we are, and picking apart our every mistake? That just keeps us stuck in a cycle of self-doubt.
And let’s be honest—being mean to yourself has never actually helped you improve, right? It doesn’t make you kinder, more talented, or more lovable. It just keeps you in the mindset of “I have to fix myself before I can be happy.” And that’s just not true.
So What If We Did Things Differently?
What if we:
Stopped over-apologizing for things that aren’t actually wrong?
Started owning our worth without feeling guilty about it?
Traded shame for self-acceptance and let ourselves just be?
Next time you catch yourself apologizing when you don’t need to, try shifting your words:
❌ “Sorry I talk too much.” → ✅ “Thanks for listening to me.”
❌ “Sorry for being emotional.” → ✅ “I appreciate you holding space for me.”
❌ “Sorry for needing help.” → ✅ “Thank you for being there for me.”
The more we stop apologizing for who we are, the more we can actually start appreciating ourselves—flaws and all. And that? That’s where real confidence, peace, and freedom live. Words have POWER, you are NOT sorry💛
Love ^ Light💕
The Self-Love Goddess Chic